An intentionally lived authentic life is unique to each individual.
Living intentionally authentic happens at the intersection where all that we are, our history, experiences, innate abilities and disabilities meet our current resources and life circumstances.
Living intentionally authentic means living your own truth, without shame; knowing you are enough because you are doing the best you can, no matter what that looks like, every single day.
How we attain these best lived lives is not a one size fits all. For many living their best life is fulfilling, absent of feeling trapped, stuck or stifled. For others it is living with eyes wide open, with awareness, mindfully and with purpose.
A well-lived life is real and not ephemeral or a fantasy; it has shadowed parts and is realistic. An authentic life is one that appreciates both possibilities and impossibilities. There is no pretending to be ok; it’s accepting that sometimes life is not ok.
Living authentically is not fooling ourselves about who we are, or what we are genuinely capable and incapable of, it doesn’t require that we push ourselves hard to gain new skills, but meet our abilities realistically to allow a natural pace of growth.
Authenticity is acknowledging that sometimes our life path might meander, or we face obstacles that can stop us in our tracks or take time to get around, but we are resilient enough to find our way forward.
Living intentionally does not require we learn new ways of being, but that we embrace all that we are in appreciation to the purpose each part serves so as to better guide our choices.
Living our best life is not reaching for a life that is beyond our abilities but one that meets our abilities and encourages us to strive for more without any unrealistic expectations. By appreciating and nurturing who we are, we can create a sense of balance and safety that not only allows us to grow but instills the belief that we can handle the risks of growth.
Flow state is described as being so fully immersed in an activity that the process feels entirely intuitive, all distractions fall away, each thought and movement follows seamlessly from the one before in a continuous flow.
Flowing is a comfortable, intuitive movement. It is not forced but rather allowed.
The only time we are not fully living and engaged in life are the times we are not moving in rhythm or moving forward.
Inertia, being out of sync, feeling stuck, off track, feeling a lack of direction or point, off trajectory and unbalanced by influences all have something in common; not moving fluidly.
If we could live a life uninterrupted, without being pulled off balance, if the world and obligations didn’t feel like a forceful pull, with the demand for our mental energy and physical resources, if challenges and obstacles did not line our path, flowing forward would likely be simple.
Life does happen; we do have interruptions.
The difference between being stuck and flowing is finding a way around and through the challenges.
Trust the process.
Flow by its nature can not be forced because like a liquid it must find its own way.
Flow is intuitive. It is born and lives in the innate abilities of our mind.
One of the most important sayings in SoulCollage® is “Trust the Process”.
What is this process?
Throughout time the great philosophers have represented this idea. One of my favorites is Rumi when he says “As you start to walk out on the way, the way appears”
The SoulCollage® process is the belief that the images that we are drawn to intuitively have an energy that embodies meaning, carry messages that are there to guide us.
By creating collages of these images, being inquisitive as to what they might have to say, we can release the voice of our intuition to answer, allowing the flow from all that is knowable into the known through metaphor and symbolism.
A natural consequence of allowing the flow of these messages without attempting to control them and without judgment is that we live our truth.
Because our intuition is the conduit to all that is knowable, when we are in rhythm and in tune things fall into place with a feeling of being as they should be. When we sense something is off that is intuition telling us to pay attention and listen.
When I was trying to live my life by other people’s values , I was not listening to my own intuition. Of course everything felt off, and wrong. I did not know how to listen, but worse I did not know how to trust.
When we trust the process that we can know the choices to make if we take time to understand all that gets in the way of our truth (when we understand the forces and energies acting on our being) then we can live and flow around and through the constant demands of life.
Setting out with the intention to change who we are is not living authentically.
The often constant bombardment of external forces acting and reacting with our history can cause our lives to be out of balance. Our knee jerk inclination, fed by these imbalances (for example our Fearful Self) is to force things to feel better in any way we can find.
In the example of our Fearful Self we may act from a place of instinctual Fight, Flight, Freeze or Fawn. These are not bad ways of being, because they are there to protect and defend our very being when we feel vulnerable. Acting from a place of fear when the fear is not real is a natural consequence of fear being out of balance.
Forcing oneself not to feel fear and not to react to this feeling in what is an instinctual way might produce a temporary fix, but nature is not to be denied. Like water needing to flow, forcing it can be a powerful thing like pressure washing, but it can only lead to destruction; fine if destruction is the desired outcome. When it comes to returning to the balance required for flow, forcing will not work. The pressure of forcing can actually push us past a middle point to the opposite extreme which also creates shadow and often with it destruction.
Through fostering a loving appreciation for all that we are, we create the safety to discover and uncover often painful truths. Witnessing, without judgment, the reactions at the impact point where external influences interact with our internal reality, can uncover a wealth of understanding. The ability to observe ourselves as imperfect humans attempting to have our most essential needs met allows us act from a place of thinking and making choices and not reaction. Again, in the example of our Fearful Self, appreciating that this is a part of us seeking protection and safety changes the need to fight what is only a part of our being that is serving a purpose.
If we learn to appreciate the value and importance of every aspect of who we are, we stop needing to use force to override our instinct. If we accept that even things like fear serve a valuable purpose and learn to listen to the message in the reactions instead of trying to deny our feelings or make them go away, we can make better choices.
Learning to trust our instinct feels vulnerable, like free falling without a safety net, at first, until we realize that our intuition is actually our wings. If we appreciate the positive intent and negative potential for the parts of us, like our perfectionist, judge and fearful selves, we can find loving ways to use our own innate power to return these to balance.
The SoulCollage® process offers us the means to understand all these aspects of our lives, all the energies at work that tug on the fibers of our intricate tapestries. When we learn to listen to those vibrations we hear the voice of intuition speaking its wisdom as it flows its truth through us from source, and all that is knowable.